News: Rev. Chris Oyakhilome & Wife Saga: A Lack of regard for the body of Christ- Joseph Ogundare

It is not in my place to judge these two children of God, certainly not. However, while it is not in my place to judge, I will still ask the many questions bugging my mind. Writing limits are one which I understand. As I ask the questions below, I must at the same time remember that line of Scripture which says, Only Jesus knows those who are His. The statement Paul made which reads, Imitate me as I imitate Christ is one statement many so-called men and women of God cannot boldly make today because the truth about them is simple- Follow not my life, but my preaching. But what is their preaching without their life? I mean the reason the believers were called Christians in the Acts of the Apostles was because people looked at them and found out that they were living and acting like Christ, so they called them Christians. Christians are those who live and act like Christ. Now I wonder and I fail to relate the lives of these two so-called leaders in the body of Christ to the above.

If The Oyakhilomes understand, they will quickly know that they are two people who lead one of the biggest Churches not just in Nigeria or Africa but in the world as a whole. Whether you and I agree or not, Christ Embassy and Believers Love World have affected a lot of people in this world. Be it from their direct preaching, programs or books, Rhapsody of reality. 

Below are some questions I find  mind blowing:

1. Are these two Christians or just very good actors? 

2. Was Pastor Chris right to have been that far from his wife and children in the name of preaching the gospel? 

3. Had the marriage ended a long time in their hearts but reputation made them mute their issue?

4. Is there a possibility that his wife was no longer attractive to him and instead of him facing it, he used the gospel as a cover up which only amounted to deception? 

5. Did Pastor Chris actually deceive his Church and the whole body of Christ in this matter?

6. The statement Pastor Chris made before his church elders in the UK, about his wife allowing her self to be deceived, was that a good statement to make about a supposed wife in public? 

7. Would Pastor Chris have advised a Church member who came to him for counseling on such matter to act or speak in that way in public about a spouse and not expect it to be taken in the wrong way by that spouse?

8. Does the above truly confirm the fact that in his mind the marriage had truly ended? 

9. Why did his wife accuse him of adultery? 

10.  Why did she even mention adultery? 

11. Is she using this as a defense mechanism? Or is she lying altogether?

12. Why was every detail about her yanked off the website of Christ Embassy in a hurry? 

13. Was it the church elders who approved the yanking off?

14.  If yes, does it mean they have taken sides already?  

15. Is the church, Christ Embassy about the body of Christ who worship there or about Pastor Chris?

16. Does pastor Chris see himself as a Church leader or as a Church "God"? 

17. He warned the church members not to turn the issue between him and his wife into a political affair and almost all the church members will be afraid of asking questions because the man of God has spoken but no, are there no questions begging for answers? Touch not my anointed is not the same thing as ask my anointed no question.

18. Will Pastor Chris still be allowed to preach in the midst of all this or will the Church elders be bold enough to ask him to stay away until he sorts himself out? 

19. I ask the above because what Jesus said is simple: "If you go to the house of worship to offer sacrifices to God and find out that a brother is not happy with you, keep the gift, go and be reconciled then you can come and offer your gift. If he does not listen, call another, if yet he does not listen take the elders. If he does not listen to the elders, treat him or her like an outcast". 

How did Jesus treat outcast? I think he treated them with love. Only that love drew them to him. 

By yanking her details off the website, was that showing love?

20. Wouldn't it be proper for Pastor Chris to step aside for now? 

21. If this great man of God cannot keep his home, then what will be his ultimate message on marriage?  

22. I don't know if this is true but I heard he rebuked a church member for praying against divorce in church...why? 

What ever answer you want to give to the above questions, that is truly up to you. But my submission on this matter is simple, both of them in all of their public exhibition have acted like children and not adults. They have shown clear cut disregard to the body of Christ. This is not about whether one is right and the other is wrong. This is about what you should not display in public for the sake of the eternal destiny of many. Imagine how many men have been showing understanding in their marriage but will now expressly head to the court for a divorce saying, if this great people could not hold it together, why am I deceiving myself? Imagine how many will expressly backslide because of this action? Imagine how many were thinking of coming to Christ but will expressly return to evil because of this? Some one will say "Well, that is their own business", but I will say no!

And I will be quick to remind that person of what Jesus said...He said it would have been better if a large stone was tied around that person's neck and he was casted into the sea than for him to cause one of His own to sin. Concerning this whole saga, I think what we all know, as  a friend said is only five percent of the whole issue, there is much more to it. 

May our lives not be that of knowing the bible and not knowing who Jesus truly is. 

My hands are off my keyboard, the rest I leave to you. 

-Joseph Adeyemi Ogundare